Sunday, September 27, 2009

Double-Edged Sword?

I have been thinking a lot about feminism in the United States recently and how it has affected women and their roles in today's society. And to be honest I've gotten pretty angry about it.

Feminism over the years has empowered women in so many ways, and I am so glad and grateful that I have the opportunity to attend college and make my dreams come true. I am also glad that I am not being forced into the life of a submissive housewife role that existed pre 60s; I have a choice to take on that role if I so choose. However there are some aspects of feminism that I really feel have disabled or negatively affected women over the years and are especially evident today.
The feminist movement of the United States was meant to empower and bring about equality; but I have come to the conclusion that it has in fact made the playing field uneven. In making women and men semi-equal in the work place and through the "sexual liberation" of women, feminism has taken a great deal of responsibility off of men.

On the subject of sex and sexual relations, feminism has essentially allowed men to have their way with whomever they wish without being chastised or marginalized because women have the freedom to choose partners as well, and so sex is now a shared responsibility. While some women do have male like sex drives and enjoy the freedom to have such liberal relations I think that these kinds of relations are damaging to most women in the dating world and even those in monogamous relationships. Because of the freedom, men tend to have less of a sense of commitment and responsibility. I'm pretty sure that the feminist movement was attempting to change women's perspectives on sex and give us the same freedom that casual sex brought the traditional man back in the day, however it has only made casual sex more damaging and possibly given men even more of an advantage in this field.

Beyond casual sex, the feminist movement has added an additional stress on women in the working and homemaking world. Because most of us women have career aspirations now (which is NOT a bad thing at all) we have to learn how to play hardball in the still primarily man's working world in order to get ahead. And yet despite all of our hard work we are still paid significantly less money than a man who works in the same position. So not only are we working harder in the work place, but for those women who want careers and a family their stress is more than doubled. While this stereotype is fading, more so in the face of the recent depression, it is still considered socially unacceptable for a man to yield his bread-winning role to his wife or significant other and take on a more domestic role. And so you have a great deal of women who are doing their best to balance work and the house while the men keep the provider role and do not take on much more domestic responsibility than they did 40 years ago.

In no way do I think that the role of men hasn't changed or that all of them are still the stereotypical macho man, because there are some men that have taken on the domestic role and/or do take responsibility for their actions; But I still do not see the equality that the feminist movement was aiming for.

I do realize that feminism in it's purest sense is the radical idea that a woman can make her own choice, whatever the situation may be. However, it seems that society's reaction to the feminist movement has not been fully beneficial to women and may have only given us a greater yoke to bear. Your thoughts?

(p.s. this was meant to be posted about 2 months ago haha)

Thursday, June 18, 2009

Woah!

So, it's been a while. I missed you bloggers!! How has life been without me? Fine I'm sure.

Since the last time I wrote an actual post (because I just realized I hadn't posted one from march until today haha) much has come to pass. I completed my second year of University with pretty good grades, I have started a healthy dating relationship with someone unexpected, and have become a salsa dancer extraordinaire! OK maybe not extraordinaire, but I'm working on it. I am a bit dissappointed that I am working almost full-time all summer, because I wanted at least 1 or 2 more years of a real summer break... C'est la vie. Make that money, right?

This is a random late night/ early morning post, in case you can't tell, sooooooo I'ma be random with it, because its my blog! haha. 

IT'S THE FRIGGIN SUMMER!!! June gloom was really intense this year in the greater Los Angeles area, I am intensely grateful that it is, for the most part, over.
The Lakers are the Champs bitches!!! Not a huge basketball fan, but it was exciting for LA in general. Pretty bummed I missed the final game, but i was at my brother's band showcase/ concert which was more important and pretty friggin awesome. 
His new band is unnamed for the time being but stay tuned for the name and upcoming gigs, they are pretty awesome nd woodstock-ish. I love their band, and it's not just because my super cool brother is in it, trust me.
The Hangover is probably one of the funniest films of all time, no lie. I went in thinking I would hate it and all the funny moments were thrown into the trailers, but it was actually side splitting. I think I burned off a days worth of calories just laughing. I would share my favorite quotes page in regards to the movie, but I will let you discover them for yourselves.
Dating is awesome, you should try it! haha. Amazingly a lot of what I learned on Tough Love (yes I'm super lame for watching a reality series religiously, but it's over now so calm down) has helped tremendously and is super true. If you missed the series a new one is in the making and I'm sure Steve is writing a book with all of his gems of knowledge so check it out. Steve Harvey's books about dating are also pretty accurate, just fyi.
Currently I am obsessed with Esperanza Spalding, she is a phenomenal musician who makes beautiful full-bodied music. Also the Fleet Foxes are a groovy band, go check them out. o and Holly Conlan, Charlene Soraia, Lex Land and Rosi Golan are also super awesome. 
I am getting tired of posting randomness, mainly because I am starting to get on a 'normal' sleep schedule and get tired around 1230 or 1 if I'm lucky, so i should go get ready for bed before I pass out. 

Hope you have a fantastic weekend!! and I will try to stay updated on my posts now that I have a bit more time. Ciao amores!

Sunday, March 29, 2009

Soulmate

Incompatible,
It don't matter though
'cause someone is bound to hear my cry
Speak out if you do 
You're not easy to find
Is it possible Mr. Loveable
is already in my life?
Right in front of me 
or maybe you're in disguise

Who doesn't long for some one to hold?
Who knows how to love you without being told
Somebody why I'm on my own
If there's a soulmate for everyone

Here we go again, circles never end
How do I find the perfect fit?
There's enough for everyone, 
but I'm still in line

Who doesn't long for someone to hold?
Who knows how to love you without being told
Somebody tell me why I'm on my own
If there's a soulmate for everyone
If there's a soulmate for everyone

Most relationships seem so transitory
They're all good but not the permanent one

Who doesn't long for someone to hold?
Who knows how to love them without being told
Somebody tell me why I'm on my own
If there's a soulmate for everyone

Who doesn't long for someone to hold?
Who knows how to love you without being told
Somebody tell me why I'm on my own 
If there's a soulmate for everyone
If there's a soulmate for everyone
- Natasha Bedingfield

SPAIN!!

Hey Damas y Caballeros,

So as many of you know I have recently returned from the land of España(!) and had a fantabulous time with the homegirl T- Chiquitina. As promised in the last post I will be giving a shopping guide to Salamanca, Spain, a beautiful town in which we resided for the majority of our trip. 

(UPDATE! I wrote this a while ago and never posted it, sorry. Enjoy)

Salamanca is a beautiful old college town in Spain, and as most major college towns, it has some amazing shopping opportunities. After you enter the Plaza Mayor (which is beautiful and has the most delicious and cheap heladeria in the city) there are alley or street ways in which you stumble across Zaras, H&M, Spanish equivalents of Abercrombie and Fitch, and even some high fashion boutiques. I must say that the store I enjoyed most due to its classic and beautiful clothing, and great prices was Sfera. They did have some trendy clothes, but for the most part they had a modern take on classic looks with simple colors and patterns that ultimately comprise great fashion and outfits (for the majority of the world, that is). I wish we had one in the USofA. I'm sure there is one in NY :( I'm visiting soon though so maybe I can find it.

Another NEED to see spot is Adolfo Dominguez's store. While he is a top designer, and his clothes sell for that kind of money, you have to go in and try on one of his gorgeous dresses. Clean lines, bold colors, and a bit of bling and snazziness. Loved it!!! But I couldn't buy it haha. Go look at his collection, especially if you have some money to drop.

If you travel a bit to the edges of the city there is a cute vintage clothing shop called Chicle. They have the cutest clothing items for really good prices, the main issue is quantity and sizing. I would recommend making the mini-trip, if even just to see the fun collection of pins and odd graphic tees and quirky accessories and o-g clothing that they have. Even the store is super artsy and fun to be in. Chicle - just do it!

Obviously I had to go to Zara and H&M even though we have them in the States. Let me just say, those of us living in the states got jipped! The Europeans definitely got the better collections and store layouts. Also Salamanca has 2 Zaras, be sure you visit both of them because they have different selections and quantity of certain collections within the brand.

OVERALL!! Spain was amazing and there are other cool shops and street vendors I could talk about but that would take years to cover and fully express to the few of you who read this blog. I hope you enjoy your shopping adventures in Salamanca and beyond. Besos. Now back to the madness of school...

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Opportunist Shopping

So this post is for all the ladies who are opportunity (not bargain) shoppers. 
This past weekend I headed to the Fashion Institute of Design and Merchandising Scholarship store with three of my girlfriends. For those of you who do not know, the scholarship store is located on 9th and Grand in Los Angeles, and clothing from Forever 21, Rapshody, and other major clothing stores or high end boutiques are donated. You get major discounts on the clothing depending on the condition (undamaged, slightly damaged, moderately and severely damaged) and accessories and shoes are also available. For 2 dresses, 2 tops, a bikini top, and some jewelry I spent less than $45. Forty Five Dollars!!! I have never spent that little money on so much clothing anywhere, even vintage shopping! 
I highly recommend this store for their amazing range and selection of clothing but would advise you to get there early because they close exactly on time (and start shoving people out the door 10 minutes early). They DO accept credit and debit cards and are not open on Sundays. Be sure to go with the girls, feel free to grab armloads of clothing, look at everything because some clothing can be easily fixed or doesn't need to be, and just have a good time!

The FIDM Schoalrship store is amazing. Next shopping update will be about location in Spain, and then hopefully Jet Rag. Stay tuned :)

Thursday, January 29, 2009

Wanna be loved?

Jill Scott and Jazmine Sullivan have pretty much documented my life in songs, soooo I would like to share lyrics, yet again. Don't worry an actual post is coming soon, I promise! haha.

It's bad, It's bad
Sometimes shit is bad.....
Look
Don't feel no pity for me 'cause I'm goin through a couple things,
Life means change, That's the way it goes goes
All my life I had a constant burning a strong deep desire
An ambiguous yearning, yearning yearning

For something better
For something bigger
For something wider
For something higher

And lots of regrets 'cause I ain't seem to found it yet
I've been searching around the world, never knowing what to expect
I get sad sometimes, yes I be mad sometimes
"cause I'm out here on the grind, making mine
And I still can't seem to find
What I've been looking for
Opened so many doors
For real, yo..... I just wanna be loved
-Jill Scott

Monday, January 19, 2009

Healing

I release all disappointment
From my mental, physical, spiritual and emotional body
'Cause I know the Spirit guides me and love lives inside me, that's why
Today I take life as it comes
-India.Arie

Sunday, January 18, 2009

Nuisances

Hellur world!! It is officially 2009, school has officially started, I am officially 20 years old, and officially have a stylin' new haircut haha. 

But I have to vent, because some things have annoyed me in the short new year and if I don't vent, it will eat away at me. This is the easiest way to get it all out because I can think through it all. 
I am a bitchy person, I'll be the first to admit it. My bitchiness and mistrust of others is a result of my distaste and intolerance for lies and facetiousness and how much other people's lies and facetiousness have seriously hurt me over the years. However, I was raised in a loving and caring family who has always taught me to show common respect to people. My mother has always found a redeeming quality in every person she has ever met (except one, amazingly) and has always said "you don't have to like them, but you have to show respect." Needless to say one of my biggest pet peeves is when people do not show common respect to others or those around them or myself. Recognizing that a person is right in front of you is not that hard. If you see them say hi. I don't care if you hate me, just say hi. 
If and when you finally do decide to say hi, please do not talk shit about me until you are out of eye and ear shot. Quite frankly, I don't care what you have to say about me. I am a work in progress, I realize this, I know I have major flaws and I know that I may have rubbed you the wrong way, I am sorry. But please keep your thoughts to yourself, and show some class. I try not to talk about other people, so I would appreciate it if you would show the same kind of respect and at least not do it "behind my back" which is really in front of my face. If you want to say something that close to me, say it to my face.
I would also like people to keep it real. If you don't like me, don't be fake. If you are being fake, you are only bringing me down and I need to progress as much as possible in these college years, so please save yourself the time and energy and just stop  the fake-ness. And again, if you have a problem, bring it up with me. I am a good listener, and will give you the time to express your opinion as long as you are being honest and not tearing me apart.

So thank you world for listening. I am trying to be a better person, and I think if everyone showed some common respect to each other we could all show some improvements.